I just want every teenage girl who’s just starting to have sex to know that it’s completely okay to NOT want to replicate porn, to NOT want to do anal, to NOT want to have threesomes and to NOT want to do bdsm. You’re not “boring” or “a prude” or “a kink shamer”, nor do you need to be fixed. You’re not wrong for not wanting to have wild unsafe or degrading sex. Your boundaries are completely okay and there’s nothing wrong with being “vanilla”.
Also it’s okay to not want to give blowjobs and to not want to have penetrative sex. It’s okay to back out of having sex that you previously agreed to. You do not owe anyone any kind of sex for any kind of reason, and if they cared about you they wouldn’t pressure you. It’s okay to not be ready for sex. (And it’s okay to never have sex!)
It’s okay to back out of having sex that you previously agreed to .
You do not owe anyone any kind of sex for any kind of reason .
Guys.
It’s okay to say no to dating a guy even though he’s nice. It’s okay to say no to sex with a guy even though he’s your boyfriend. It’s okay to say no to dating or sex with a guy even though he bought you something/stood up for you/shared his notes/anything really. If it’s okay if you only want to try certain kinds of sexual things, and you are allowed to say and enforce that those are all you’re interested in and the only things you’re going to do. It’s okay to break up with a dude who’s trying to pressure you in any way. It’s okay to report his behaviour to teachers or counselors or authorities or your parents/parental figures. And if an adult tries to downplay aggressive behaviour from a dude, it’s okay for you to report it to someone else until you’re taken seriously.
It’s also ok to do this if you’re an adult.
Mooncustafer 