It is completely normal to have preferences about what kind of sexual activities you want to engage in, and you have no reason to be ashamed about your preferences. That said, this seems to be distressing you, so I’d like to make a few suggestions.
1. If you have experienced some kind of sexual trauma at some point in your life, this could well be related to that trauma. In that case, I encourage you to seek counseling to deal with the aftermath of that trauma.
2. Are you averse to penetration by things other than a penis? If not, try penetrating yourself with your fingers or a toy.
3. Do you experience pain when something penetrates you vaginally? (I don’t even mean just in a sexual context. This can include inserting a tampon or getting a pap smear.) If so, you should speak to your gynecologist.
4. Some people are going to see this and suggest that it means you may not be straight. You’ve told me that you’re straight and my policy is to believe people when they tell me who they are. That said, if you think you may not be straight, you should explore. But don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you can’t be straight because you don’t want to have “normal” straight sex.
5. Finally, this seems to be causing you a great deal of distress. There’s nothing inherently wrong with not wanting to be penetrated by a penis, but there is something wrong if you’re upset. I would absolutely encourage you to speak to a therapist about this. It may be that therapy can help you get more comfortable with the idea of penetration. If not, therapy will certainly be able to help you get more comfortable with yourself and your own sexual preferences.
Hi so I wanted to ask you about this because I’m really confused so first I’m a girl I’m straight I think and I’m no asexual because I have sexual feelings or I like sexual intimacy but I don’t like the idea of having someone or something in me (a dick) is it weird or is that normal is anyone else like that??? I’m really confused I need help
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