Well, tell your friend I am flattered. I do enjoy the occasional well-intentioned objectification.
I’m not sure if you are looking for a serious answer or not, but…
I have not been in a relationship for quite some time. My circumstances are not very conducive to a pairing. Not being able to leave the house tends to limit my options. I’ve done online long distance relationships and I actually think some of them went rather well. I was content with the situation but in the end some folks just need to do the IRL thing. I understood that, but I just didn’t have any way to make it happen.
Right now I don’t know if I have the energy to maintain a serious relationship. Some say I could just try something more casual, but I’m not very good at that. I’m a maximum effort type of partner and I’m not sure I could overcome that nature within me. It’s not that I’m overbearing or anything. I’m all about respecting people’s space and independence. But I like to make sure my partner feels special. That they have my attention when it is appropriate. And that just takes… work. And energy. Usually that work is super rewarding and totally worth it. I just don’t know if my body is capable of maintaining those standards.
I guess I’d want to be a good boyfriend and sometimes I worry I’m just not capable of that with my current limitations.
Soooo… I’m not actively seeking anything at the moment. If the universe throws some sort of romantic happenstance at me, I might consider it. But right now I have some wonderful friends who support and love me. I won’t say that I never get lonely, but my close friendships are quite amazing. They fill my heart with so much platonic love that I don’t feel a great need to find a significant other.
And I’m not just saying that to make myself feel better. My friends are the best and I’m grateful for that.
As for girlfriend or boyfriend… I am hopelessly heterosexual. I pretty much live on the left side of the Kinsey Scale.
I say hopelessly somewhat jokingly.
The majority of my friends are very much not heterosexual. And while I’m comfortable with my orientation, I guess sometimes I wish I was able to better relate to the people I love so much. There are some things in this world that one cannot completely understand without experiencing them. I want to be a good ally and I want to be as empathetic as possible, but I still put my big hetero foot in my mouth on occasion.
I’ve learned a lot and feel like I do much better these days. But sometimes, late at night when I’m trying to fall asleep, my brain decides to play that game where it replays every embarrassing thing I’ve ever said. It’s like the hetero hijinks blooper real.
I will say, I have had a few… blips. Tiny little blips. Like these quick brain flashes where I was like, “Whaaaaaaaaaaa??? What was that?”
Do you remember this scene?
For a brief moment I was like…
But it was fleeting and not a valuable learning experience.
I think I still ended up texting Katrina and was all, “OMG! My brain did a thing for Captain America!”
And she was all, “Everybody’s brain does a thing for Captain America!”
So that was no help.
I think I probably gave you wayyy too much information.
Mooncustafer 