also, i miss squicks.
that was such a good fandom term. let’s bring it back.
while i respect and appreciate trigger warnings i feel like often it comes with a burden. like at the very least you have to be out and open with the fact you have a panic disorder and have triggers. and too often i’ve seen this become “i’ll only respect your triggers if you disclose your mental health diagnoses”, which is bad and wrong and real damn stupid. it’s downright anti-recovery. somebody can’t recover if you want them to be able to retraumatize themselves telling you the details and then seeing if you judge them worthy or not.
squick is good. you can tell someone it’s a squick instead of a trigger, and not be forced to give up your dx. it’s very curb cutter effect. you get to normalize that request of “hey, let me know so i can avoid x”.
and it’s so nice for people who just have squicks! if you only got trigger warnings then you have people who are like, “ah jeez, i really dislike seeing this and i want to avoid it, but is it a trigger? do i have the right to ask for it as an accessibility thing? am i co-opting a struggle if i ask for people to tag it as one??” and like… shit, maybe sometimes it IS a trigger, they just aren’t at a place where they feel like hey can officially name it one. or maybe it’s just shit they don’t wanna see! and that’s FINE!
someone can give you a low-key “don’t like that” and have it respected and it’s GREAT! it’s just a thing that gets respected anyway!
bring back squick basically